40+ Texts Where Women Set Their Own Rules

Being a woman or a girl isn’t always easy. Sometimes, people expect us to sit back and smile when things don’t go our way. Others think that being ladylike is all about keeping quiet, staying out of trouble, and getting on with things. But, how boring does that sound? Instead, lots of women have learned to create their own rules, and stand up for their own needs. In these text messages, women are clear about what they need and how they feel.

Let’s kick things off with a woman who clearly has her own rules in place. From the looks of things, this lovely lady has received a text message from her ex, and she doesn’t want to hear it. With a simple “What’s up,” this guy has crawled back into her life via her inbox.

While some people might respond just to be polite, this woman decided to send back a picture of herself and her new guy, both sporting the most astonished facial expressions they could muster. Just to be extra clear, she added a firm “No.”

We’ll admit that while we admire this woman’s confidence, we do feel a little bit sorry for poor Kevin. As you can see from this text message exchange, Kevin was waiting outside in his car for an hour, and he didn’t even call or text before then! Is Kevin OK?

Hilariously, when Laura finds out that Kevin’s been waiting, she admits that she forgot all about their date. Worse still, she convinced herself she was dressed up to take a selfie.

Here we have another ex-boyfriend creeping back into someone’s life with an unnecessary text message. Everyone knows it’s boring to tell other people about your dreams, so why talk to your ex-partner about it? We can guarantee they don’t want to hear it.

While this woman did respond to her loser ex-boyfriend, she was pretty firm in her final response. Yes, she asked him about the dream, but she also burst out laughing when she heard about its contents.

You know, when you decide it’s time to win your ex-girlfriend back, it’s probably best to speak with her in person. If that’s too weird, then maybe give her a call, or send her a quick text to tell her that you’d like to chat. That would be the reasonable thing to do.

Instead, this person decides to send his ex a message saying, “This feeling won’t go away.” Sigh. He then makes a major blunder by spelling her name wrong. Thankfully, Jamie isn’t into it.

Many women are raised being told that it’s important to be polite. While that’s a nice lesson in theory, it doesn’t help with all the weird men in the world. Don’t get us wrong — there are plenty of great guys around — but women are constantly pestered by men hitting on them.

Thankfully, the woman on the other side of this message knows that she doesn’t want to be with the person texting her. Instead of playing games, she tells him in no uncertain terms.

People have different standards when it comes to relationships. Some have very clear rules when it comes to what’s OK and what isn’t, while others make it up as they go along. For the people involved in this interaction, the rules seem to have gotten a little confused.

The guy hasn’t contacted this woman in three weeks but thinks it’s OK to message her at night about cuddling. The woman isn’t into it, and very firmly tells him to move along.

When you find your inbox cluttered up with lots of unwanted emails, what do you do? If your YouTube feed keeps getting spammed with annoying clothing hauls, what do you do? If your streaming service increases its prices yet another time, what do you do? Say it with us folks — you unsubscribe!

That’s what this woman had in mind when she received multiple messages and calls from her ex. Hopefully, he got the picture after this.

Brace yourselves, ladies and gentlemen — because this message contains a seriously brazen man. Thankfully, he’s facing off against a woman who’s fully aware of her own rules and boundaries. You go, girl!

As you can see, in this exchange, someone asks their ex-girlfriend if she’ll iron a pair of his pants. Can you even believe it? We’re pleased the lady in question here didn’t just say, “No” — he deserved the full response.

And again, we’re faced with a truly terrible man. This guy decides to make his ex-girlfriend super anxious by texting her that he has to “come clean.” When she responds in confusion, he admits that during their relationship, he pretended to cook for her.

This is awful for the obvious reason that he lied, but also because he decided to tell her after the fact. Once more, this wonderful woman throws it right back in his face, telling him cooking was the only good thing about him.

For those of you that don’t know, the character in this text message exchange is Oleg, the baby meerkat. Oleg is part of a cast of animated meerkats created by insurance company Compare the Market. They reside in commercials and on the parody website, Compare the Meerkat. These characters have become strangely popular, and have been made into dolls and figurines.

Anyway, in these messages, baby Oleg basically stands for, “Come to me right now.” Thankfully, this boyfriend speaks meerkat.

The guy who sent these messages must have done something pretty bad, because this woman isn’t playing. When this man texts to ask when he can see his love interest again, she tells him that his only chance is in his dreams.

She also adds a cheeky, “Sleep tight,” showing that she’s absolutely furious. It looks like this guy was sending a late-night message, and he chose to send it to the wrong person.

It’s really great that women no longer feel that they have to soften the blow when it comes to speaking their minds. After all, open communication is a good thing, and nobody wants to be lied to. Rather than hiding behind the truth, the women on this list just come out and say what they’re thinking.

In this case, this woman is thinking that she wants nothing to do with this man. She tells him that she doesn’t plan to repeat that mistake.

In the same vein as the previous message, the woman here has a creative way of telling a man to leave her alone. Named on her phone as “Loser,” this guy messages to ask if this woman hates him.

Here’s a tip — that’s a surefire way to get someone to hate you. Rather than saying she does hate him, this woman explains her feelings using a nice metaphor. How poetic.

We’re a fan of this text exchange, where someone craftily traps their boyfriend by making a series of confusing statements. The woman here tells her partner that she plans to dye her hair black, pierce various parts of her face, and get a tattoo.

When her partner responds to ask why, she pounces. Watch your back, Alan. Poor Alan was asking for this, and should have known better than to like another girl’s picture.

This text exchange made us chuckle, especially because the funny woman in question doesn’t back down. When someone messages this lady to say “Hey,” she casually takes a week to respond. When she does eventually reply, she uses the weakest excuse of all — “I was in the shower.”

When her admirer confirms that she’s saying she was in the shower for a week, she does the texting equivalent of looking him in the eye and nodding.

So far we’ve seen an ex listed as “Loser” in someone’s phone, and now we have a contact name that’s even worse than that. This unfortunate person decides to reach out to their ex-girlfriend and ask if she wants to get coffee and chat.

Rather than asking for any details or showing any interest, she quickly says she’s busy. When her ex points out that he didn’t mention a date or time, she simply replies with, “I know.” See ya!

Sometimes, you don’t need witty lines, savage metaphors, or sarcastic memes to tell someone how you feel. Sometimes, you just need to laugh in their face. This woman certainly lives by her own rules and isn’t concerned with her ex’s feelings.

When he texts to say that he misses her, she simply cackles in text form. Just to be crystal clear — she finishes off her hysterical laughter with, “Bye.”

Yes, we just said that you don’t need witty lines to tell someone to back off. But, that doesn’t mean we don’t like them. We’re big fans of this next woman’s work, which appears when her ex texts her the obnoxious message, “babe wyd I’m bored.” Shudder.

This comeback is truly righteous, and we applaud this woman for really going for it. She asks if he’s air, she asks if he’s water, and then she announces that she doesn’t need him. Boom!

Another addition to the contact name hall of fame is this guy, otherwise known as “Don’t Bother.” Don’t Bother decided to text his ex-girlfriend an inane message about how he was bored and playing the Sims. Really, that’s the sort of thing you just keep to yourself.

Amusingly, Don’t Bother’s ex-girlfriend decided to tell him how pathetic his attempt at contacting her was. Using the same wording, she responds with her own take.

This ridiculous message doesn’t even have two participants, but it’s evidence of a woman who lives by her own rules. This husband recounts that he and his wife decided to play hide and seek, but that his spouse mysteriously disappeared.

After searching everywhere, he called her and realized she had ditched him. We wonder if this woman even hid at all, or if she just used the game as an opportunity to slip out of the house.

Here’s the thing — when your relationship with someone ends, you forfeit all sorts of benefits. You don’t talk to them anymore, you don’t hang out with them anymore, and you don’t do favors for each other anymore.

As we’ve seen already on this list, you can’t text your ex and randomly and ask them to iron your pants. Likewise, you can’t pop up out of the blue and ask them for a ride. For this guy, it’s time to call a cab.

Here we have a Snapchat exchange between two people that used to date. While this couple was together, their social media accounts were private — but now they’re apart, so things have changed.

In this exchange, this ex-boyfriend outright accuses his ex-girlfriend of changing her Instagram page to public because she’s looking good and wants people to know it. She’s not about to lie, so she responds with this hilarious bitmoji. Hey, she follows her own rules.

Memes are perfect when you don’t have the exact words to express how you feel. When this person’s ex-boyfriend starts messaging her, she can only respond using the Selena Gomez crying meme.

This meme has been going around the internet since 2013 when Selena Gomez appeared on an LA radio show and was shown the winning video submission from the “biggest Selena Gomez fan” contest. In times like this, Gomez’s wincing face says everything.

When people first pop up on dating apps, they have a number of options when it comes to saying hi. You could just say “hey” like a normal person, you could make a joke, or perhaps you could refer to something in their bio. Or, like this charmer, you could insult the other person.

This guy tells a woman that she looks like she would make a good single mother. Before she hit the block button (trust us, she did), she hit him back with her own zinger.

If things don’t work out in a relationship, there’s always the possibility that you can both reconnect in the future. For example, you might be able to text your ex and ask them for some travel tips. However, for these two exes, it looks like somebody asked for recommendations a little too soon.

This guy wants to know about any particular BBQ places or cool haunts in Nashville, but his ex-girlfriend just wants him to go straight to hell.

Supposedly, it’s not polite to rub someone’s face in something. But, do those rules really stand when somebody cheats? We say no, which is why it’s totally fine that this woman reminded her ex-boyfriend that he cheated on her. Oh, and that it was wrong.

This cheater should know better than to message the person he cheated on. Even worse, he texts her again to say that he shouldn’t have texted her before. Get it together, dude!

On all sorts of social media and messaging platforms, you can see if someone is typing. We’re not sure that this is the best function, as it can cause quite a bit of anxiety if someone just keeps typing, and typing, and typing.

In the case of these two ex-partners, one person was trying to block the other on Snapchat when they were spotted online. Rather than pretending she was actually typing, this woman just comes out and admits her real actions.

Unlike many of the other text message exchanges on this list, this one is between two divorced people. In gray, is an ex-husband asking his ex-wife how jealous she’ll be when he becomes a famous LA actor.

Unbelievably, he seems to expect her to cheerlead him and support his imaginary Hollywood career. This strong woman isn’t affected, though. She responds to say that she’s already got his first autograph on the divorce papers.

This girlfriend has got her girlfriend game down. As you can see from this image, this woman sent her boyfriend a meme of a rather unpleasant-looking rodent creature. It could be a naked mole-rat, it could be something similar, but we can all agree — it’s not exactly one of Earth’s most beautiful specimens.

But this girlfriend didn’t even need to send this meme, because her boyfriend instantly replied to tell her how beautiful she is. This woman should write a book.

In the popular fantasy series, A Song of Ice and Fire, and its televised adaptation Game of Thrones, two characters use the sun and moon to express their love. Daenerys Targaryen and Khal Drogo say to one another — “Moon of my life,” and “My sun and stars.”

That’s what came to mind when we read this woman’s message asking someone to be the sun in her life. It turns out, being the sun in someone’s life has a pretty different meaning here.

Once more we have a woman who isn’t afraid to have her own rules. While we may be taught to be nice to people and try not to hurt their feelings, it’s important to put our own needs first. And sometimes, our own needs are all about telling someone to get away from us.

In this exchange, someone asks when they’ll see the woman they like again. The woman replies that it’ll be when they post a picture on Instagram. Hey, at least he’s not blocked…yet.

When you’re trying to get someone to talk to you, it’s generally a good idea to be nice to them. This guy goes with a different tactic, and insults his ex-girlfriend by asking if she’ll ever “grow up” and speak with him. We certainly don’t appreciate that tone.

Though she must have been avoiding him so far, the woman in question does reply, asking what her ex wants to discuss. She sets up a meeting spot at Blockbusters, but of course, Blockbusters has long since gone out of business.

When you decide it’s eventually time to end a relationship, you might be faced with a little resistance. Some manipulative people try to make you feel bad, and they’ll tug on your heartstrings until you decide to have them back.

That’s what this guy was attempting when he told his ex-girlfriend (that he cheated on) that she was “the only thing” keeping him alive. Her ice-cold response? That she hopes he has a will. Mic drop.

The person that sent this misguided message thought that a GIF would get them back in their ex-girlfriend’s good graces. This particular meme features actor Adam Levine rather obnoxiously asking, “What Up, Dogg?” Isn’t that what everyone wants to hear from their ex?

Rather than engaging with this low level of communication, this woman responded with a simple, “No.” That seemed to resonate with her ex, who responded to say, “Fair enough.” Yes, that’s absolutely fair enough.

Once a relationship is over, it’s fairly normal to delete that person’s details from your phone. Some people might keep them for sentimental reasons, others for emergencies, and some might hang onto them because it makes no difference otherwise.

However, this person clearly cleaned out her phone once she ended things with Joey. Anyway, when Joey checks in regarding some serious flooding, his ex-girlfriend simply tells him that she drowned. Take the hint, Joey.

After people break up, there’s usually a period of time where everyone still has heightened emotions. It’s during this time that people might reconcile, or at least get together and cry a bunch. Of course, this is also when people sneakily text each other, hoping to get their relationship back on track.

This person is texting his ex-girlfriend to say how much he misses her. As you can see from her hilarious response, she’s sleeping like a baby.

Personally, we wouldn’t love it if our ex-boyfriend messaged us “New Year New Me” in capital letters. Actually, we would hate that. Understandably, this irritated woman asks her annoying ex to take her off what she assumes to be a group chat. However, it turns out that this message was indeed crafted just for her.

Jessica then boldly asks this frustrating person if he’s “still awful.” Obviously, we already know the answer is yes, but this guy quickly confirms it.

This is one of the best ways of breaking up with someone that we’ve ever seen. Here we have somebody sending a gorgeous selfie of herself to her partner, saying it’s her favorite picture of them in the upcoming year.

When her partner asks where he is, she tells him that he’s staying in the previous year. Yes, this might come off as savage, but we’re sure she had a good reason for it. You can’t argue that this gal is making her own rules.

Remember we mentioned manipulative cheaters that try to squirm back into people’s lives? Well, here we have a classic case of just that. This person cheated on their partner, and then had the cheek to message them calling them, “babe.” That’s a red flag right there.

Then, this ridiculous person tried to woo his partner back with some basic compliments like, “Your beauty takes my breath away.” Thankfully, this woman took his lousy metaphor and threw it right back at him.

While plenty of the women on this list have made their own rules to deal with unwanted advances, others are just plain speakers. We’re not sure where exactly this person lies, but they certainly don’t hold back when it comes to saying what they’re thinking.

In this exchange, a man is chatting about a boxing gym near his home, and a woman says she wants to watch him box. So far, so flirtatious, right? Well, she then clarifies that she wants to see him get punched in the face.

When you’re in a relationship, it’s not enough to just listen to the words your partner says. No, no, no. When you’re in a relationship, you need to follow your partner’s moods, understand their cravings, and read between the lines when it comes to their text messages.

This boyfriend — probably named Dennis — doesn’t understand why his girlfriend is mad that he went out when she said, “OK.” The thing is, she actually said, “OK Den,” and we all know that’s a totally different thing.

When pint-sized pop star Ariana Grande released her single, “Thank U, Next” in 2019, it took over the world. The song was number one in several countries and broke various streaming records because of its pop-culture-packed video.

In the song, Grande reflects on her past relationships and sings, “Thank you, next” when moving onto the next boyfriend. As you can see here, “Thank you, next” is a pretty great line when it comes to text messages from ex-boyfriends.

Now, when it comes to setting rules, this woman really runs a tight ship. When she asks her boyfriend if he’s actually at home, it’s not enough that he says “Yes” and sends her pictures as proof.

This woman isn’t stupid, and she demands to see a picture that couldn’t have been taken on a different day. And that’s how we land at this image of a man with a spoon on his head. Totally normal.

Again, this strong-willed woman knows what she wants and knows how to get it. As we can see in this screenshot, this girlfriend wants her boyfriend to look through someone’s stories on Instagram and send her the screenshots.

Presumably, she’s doing this because that person is trying to move in on her boyfriend. Whatever the context, this woman gives her command and her dutiful boyfriend is right on it. We bet this woman goes on to do great things.

Finally, we round out our list of text messages where women set their own rules with this short but sweet entry. As we can see here, someone somewhere thought it was a good idea to message their ex asking them if they remember (remember what exactly?).

This is a surefire way to irritate someone, especially if there aren’t many things to remember fondly about the relationship. Alas, this woman does reply, but just to say that she only remembers with disgust.